date a girl who dances
14 Jan 2012 Leave a Comment
in happiness, inspiration
This post was inspired by the various posts like Date a girl who reads, Date a girl who writes, and more importantly, date a girl who Dances. Mine probably won’t give justice to the eloquence of the previous writers, but in my own little way, I wanted to share my thoughts. Enjoy! 
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Date a girl who dances. Date a girl who spends her money shuffling through the musty racks of thrift stores trying to find the biggest pair of sweatpants, the type she can easily grab when she’s feeling the beat. Find the girl who will leave your closet half-empty as she uses all your big shirts for practice, rolling up the sleeves, cutting up big arm holes or low necklines to show some skin. And notice that while the other girls squeal over whopping percentage discounts over make-up, heels and dresses, you’ll find her ogling at the Vans/Adidas/Nike store, caressing sneakers the way a pianist would caress the ivory keys.
Let her in on all your latest music finds. She will appreciate it even if you share the strangest rock sounds or the unexpected indie beat, as opposed to her usual sounds. Bear with her SYTYCD fanatic moments and watch it with her even if you don’t understand what’s happening. It would mean the world to her. Wipe her tears away and hug her when she sheds tears watching contemporary pieces. She has just experienced a catharsis that she can only express through another dance, for words would not be enough.
She’s the girl who will suddenly bust into a move, no matter where you guys are. Love her for it; those spontaneous bursts are fleeting diamonds in the rough. Have patience with her attachment to her iPod or to YouTube. Music is her oxygen and choreographies, her source of vision. When she closes her eyes in the middle of your conversation, pause. It doesn’t mean she isn’t listening; in fact, she was probably paying enough attention to be inspired with a vision for her next piece.
Don’t get insecure with the way she goes gaga over male choreographers and dancers. She may gush at the way he glides on the floor, or the way twists his head sexily. This represents a layer of admiration for choosing dance as his channel of expression. Find time to watch those guys and learn from them. They are poets in their own right, romancing with every stride.
Watch her dance. She may not notice you as she falls into the trance of her turns and lines, but watch her. In her every step, she reveals a part of her soul that you would never find no matter how deep you can engage her into a conversation. Make it to her every performance, because every show will tell a different story. She may not catch your eye or even see you in the crowd, but know that somewhere within her piece, she probably just told the world your story together.
If you are unsure on how she feels about you, observe her intently. Follow her body language as she sways to the cadence of the song. You can discover so much about her emotions- her happiness, her conflicts, her pain, her love. And if she asks for your private audience to comment on her latest piece–grab the chance. She has just invited you to the secret that is her world, all 3-5 minutes that was and is her life.
Do not expect her to remember all your dates, or show up on time. She will often still be engrossed in perfecting her piece as the clock strikes in time for your date. In the case she IS done perfecting her piece, have the patience as she prepares for the date. She’s not taking forever putting on makeup or choosing her outfit; she’s probably taking a few more minutes visualizing a piece in the shower. Somehow, running water helps with the visions. In many occasions, you will have to pick her up from her studio and wait until she is satisfied with her piece. You might even end up spending your date time at the studio instead. That’s okay, just grab take-out and bring her dinner. She will gladly wolf down the chinese take-out or the french fries you got her after being famished with her intense rehearsals. On your movie date, offer your shoulder for her to rest on. Kiss her on her forehead if she falls asleep during the movie from her all-day rehearsal. She will cuddle to the warmth and softness that is you; a change from the hard wooden floors she spent all day on.
You will probably be relieved that she doesn’t talk a lot like most girls. Dancers tend to keep words to themselves. But don’t get frustrated over the fact that she doesn’t seem to be a sweet talker, even if the occasion demands it. She lives by the principle actions speak louder than words, and in this case, action would be the dance. Don’t expect to understand and be capable to interpret her movement. Not even other dancers can interpret what one choreography is meant for. But as with the girl who writes, expect her to love you with the passion that is equal or eve more than what you give her, for passion runs in her veins.
Most of all, if you find a girl who dances, take her dancing! It doesn’t matter if you can’t move to save your life, or if you don’t really know her style. The effort to enter her world of imagination is the best way to her heart. Don’t be afraid to ask her to teach you or better yet, don’t be afraid to move when she does teach you. She understands that every step is a journey, and she will be more than glad to join you in that path–the beginning of a great adventure together, the rhythm of your love.
If you want a world beyond words, a love beyond verbal imagination, date a girl who dances. Date with the girl who dances because with her, life would be simply inexplicable.
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